How many of us have gone through life looking out for a partner that meets a certain set of requirements?
Most of us already know who we are going to date or marry, even before we meet them.
Is that not true? At least majority of the girls or boys I know, already know what they want in a life partner.
Nothing wrong with that. Everyone has their choices. But the problem is that most of us are tangent to thinking visually about how that person should be. Tall, dark, handsome, beautiful, white, skinny, lanky and all such terms come to mind when you think of what you want in a partner.
Magazines, movies, T.V., adverts- we all choose from what we see. What is projected to us are specific models who look exceptionally pleasing visually. But not all of us look like that ourselves.
I must admit I have also fallen prey, sadly, to this pre-conditioned thinking and have missed out maybe on the best relationships I could have had in life. Yes, I do deeply and sincerely regret not having given a chance to some of the most exquisite men/women who I have come across in my life. It's really not about the looks, it's about how you feel. How do they really make you feel? Or has one decided to throw feeling back in the trash can, because by the looks of it that's what most of us do. We bottle everything up or throw it in some inner recess of our brain so that we are numb to most experiences. We only want scorching visuals.
Repeatedly been asked out for a cup of coffee or a ride home, I used to refuse blatantly and not even give a chance to some of nicest of the lot. It's just sad when I look back upon it. Maybe I was scared. Maybe he did not meet my expectations in the looks department. Come on, How mean could I have been?
I cringe when I think about how foolish I had been. Why I had chosen to go by looks. Looks is important but it is not the most important criteria when it comes to anything eventually.
Do not go by the appearance of someone. Judging for the appearance is absolutely wrong. It's just really stupid. I know so many wonderful men and women who do not meet the 'norms' of what a person must 'look' like to be termed charming or good to be with.
Just don't miss out on that person. You will be losing a special experience. How I......Oh, I can't describe it. Just watch this video in the link, you might get the essence of what I am trying to say. Especially what he feels towards the end, is what I feel these days.
What I am trying to say is, Don't do it by the book. You will be losing out on some very special experiences.
There are no rules to this game. Just give everyone a chance. See how it makes you feel. Start feeling something.
ps- Get to the end of the video, that's the important bit. Dustin Hoffman, RESPECT!
ps- Get to the end of the video, that's the important bit. Dustin Hoffman, RESPECT!
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