Why Looks Should Not Matter

How many of us have gone through life looking out for a partner that meets a certain set of requirements?
Most of us already know who we are going to date or marry, even before we meet them.
Is that not true? At least majority of the girls or boys I know, already know what they want in a life partner.
Nothing wrong with that. Everyone has their choices. But the problem is that most of us are tangent to thinking visually about how that person should be. Tall, dark, handsome, beautiful, white, skinny, lanky and all such terms come to mind when you think of what you want in a partner. 
Magazines, movies, T.V., adverts- we all choose from what we see. What is projected to us are specific models who look exceptionally pleasing visually. But not all of us look like that ourselves. 
I must admit I have also fallen prey, sadly, to this pre-conditioned thinking and have missed out maybe on the best relationships I could have had in life. Yes, I do deeply and sincerely regret not having given a chance to some of the most exquisite men/women who I have come across in my life. It's really not about the looks, it's about how you feel. How do they really make you feel? Or has one decided to throw feeling back in the trash can, because by the looks of it that's what most of us do. We bottle everything up or throw it in some inner recess of our brain so that we are numb to most experiences. We only want scorching visuals.

Repeatedly been asked out for a cup of coffee or a ride home, I used to refuse blatantly and not even give a chance to some of nicest of the lot. It's just sad when I look back upon it. Maybe I was scared. Maybe he did not meet my expectations in the looks department. Come on, How mean could I have been? 
I cringe when I think about how foolish I had been. Why I had chosen to go by looks. Looks is important but it is not the most important criteria when it comes to anything eventually. 
Do not go by the appearance of someone. Judging for the appearance is absolutely wrong. It's just really stupid. I know so many wonderful men and women who do not meet the 'norms' of what a person must 'look' like to be termed charming or good to be with. 
Just don't miss out on that person. You will be losing a special experience. How I......Oh, I can't describe it. Just watch this video in the link, you might get the essence of what I am trying to say. Especially what he feels towards the end, is what I feel these days.
What I am trying to say is, Don't do it by the book. You will be losing out on some very special experiences.
There are no rules to this game. Just give everyone a chance. See how it makes you feel. Start feeling something.
ps- Get to the end of the video, that's the important bit. Dustin Hoffman, RESPECT!


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18 comments

  1. A Life That Feels Good On The Inside Is Much More Important..

    Truly Said n You Have Expressed Your Thoughts So Well! :)

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    1. You've put it beautifully, Heena :)

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  2. I never go by the looks as they say looks can be deceptive. For me the qualities as a person matters the most. Nice to read the post .:)

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    1. That's great, Niesha. It's very important to know someone from the inside out :)

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  3. That's a very touching video. Well, sadly everyone judges by looks. I hate that seriously. I really hate that. But even I cant help but do it at times. Nice post, Coral. Loved reading through it!

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    1. Naz, thanks for your honesty. It really made me think when I saw that video. I had to go so deep within.

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  4. very beautifully written, at times we tend to depend too much on looks, which we have to overcome..

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    1. So true, here I am living proof of overcoming pre-conditioned thoughts

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  5. Very well written..and it's right we go by looks. .though it's unfortunate. ..

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  6. Very well written and yes we do go by looks which shouldn't be the case....

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  7. Very well written..and it's right we go by looks. .though it's unfortunate. ..

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  8. Interesting piece and thanks for posting the clips. Feel free to drop by me too anytime.

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    1. Ellinor, Welcome in here. Thank you for your comments. Hopping on over to yours :)

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  9. Well written. I liked the video.
    Check out my blogs sometimes if you are interested :)

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    1. Thank you, Anwesha. Your blog is interesting, will hop in there again soon :)

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  10. Nice post. It's true, we're told not to judge a book by its cover, but everyone does it. I know some very attractive people with boring, or even vicious, personalities, and some physically plain people who have a most vibrant personality. To put things into perspective, I sometimes ask myself, "Would I like someone who looks like a supermodel, but behaves like an a-hole?" The answer is always no.

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    1. So true, Vivienne. After some trials I have learnt to see with my heart. Looks really should be the last thing on one's mind. it can otherwise turn out to be any eye-sore.

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